August 6, 2016......
That was the day i said I do to the love of my life and most importantly my BEST FRIEND.
At first, our original wedding date was going to be July 1st, 2017 and we were going to have the big wedding. Then, during the month of June after I graduated in 2016, we both realized that having a big wedding wasn't for us, it was for everyone else. Due to us feeling this way, we decided to make a huge decision. We decided to get married two months later. We only had about 10 people total at our wedding! I know some of you may be thinking, they are crazy! Yes we are, we are crazy in LOVE!
The wedding was not a huge deal to us. Getting married was a huge deal to us. The wedding is only one day but marriage is a LIFETIME. Nothing is more special than becoming one with your two loves of your life, your partner and GOD.
A lot of people put so much stress and attention to having the perfect dress or the perfect location. Women have an anxiety attack if their bridesmaids can't fulfill, it is just one day, not even that, a few hours. What happens after the wedding and reception? Everyone goes home and soon forgets about your special day and it's just you and your spouse.
On my wedding day I was so calm. My secret, I didn't worry about having the perfect wedding and I focused on being an amazing wife for my husband. I married my husband knowing not just how great marriage was but also knowing that it will be hard work. We learned how to communicate effectively to get through any issue we may have. We accepted each other for who we were and we established a very strong friendship. We established our trust as well and took the time to really get to know each other, both the good and the bad. We knew marriage would not fix anything or erase anything that happened before we said I do, so we made sure that we had the tools in place to make it through the issues we were facing before we got married and made sure we were prepared to get through all the hardships we may face while in covenant with each other.
We did not believe that you have to have everything together before you are married. Have the house, career, etc. in place before you say I do. If you have to have your self together before marriage, what is the point of marriage? Marriage is suppose to be a partnership with someone you can face life with. You don't need to have everything together to be a successful husband or wife. Marriage is not about money, the house, car, career, etc. All you need to do is be completly present with your partner and keep GOD at the center of it all. When you are discussing about having a family, then yes, money is important, but you can gain these things with your husband or wife.
My husband and I are married and we do not have a whole lot of money, a house, both in grad school working on building towards our careers. We do not have everything in life together and we have an amazing marriage. It isn't perfect because no one is perfect but with GOD, I can truly and honestly say, it is AMAZING. We are present with each other and work our hardest to meet each other's needs when they are expressed and keep GOD at the center of it all. Marriage will have hardships, that is a given but how you can get through them is what matters. That is what marriage is all about.